The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read - Philippa Perry
Subtitled 'and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did', this excellent book by renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry maps out some do's and don't of parenting - with both the parents and children's interests at heart.
This isn't a perfect plan (does that even exist?) it is a more holistic look at the parent-child relationship and the elements that make it work. Never dry, always absorbing (and often very funny), this is a non-preachy and realistic look at parenting.
Inside there are areas which cover how your own upbringing can affect parenting, breaking negative cycles, accepting your mistakes and handling your own (and your child's) feelings.